Sweet Tot
So I’ve been super-sweet to my bf but need help quick!?
My bf and I just got back together. We had a wonderful time last night, but again, he calls me in the morning and asks if we could stop making it work. Even though he promised he’d never talk to me like that again. (I just listen to him, because I know he won’t leave me. He just likes to say it on the phone (not in person) to push me.) So I told him to stop with the games, and that i will talk to him later. I gave him like 3 hours, and I’m about to call him again, but need like a good excuse for calling him. Any ideas?
I’ve been super sweet tot his guy, and working extra hard to keep a smile on him. Help! =p
You aren’t gonna want to hear what I have to say…but in all honesty, I think trying to make him get it to work is a bad idea.
You should not be the only one that wants the relationship. You should not have to convince him. He should just want to be with you, because let’s face it, you’re super sweet, dedicated, and loyal. In other words, you’re an awesome chick, and he should be so lucky. But for whatever reason, this guy has yet to get that through his head.
He’s actually so blind about it that he’s actually willing to hurt you by asking to end it, he’s so wrapped up in whatever it is, that he is asking you to walk out of his life. And let’s address something, when a guy says he doesn’t want you in his life despite everything you’ve done, that hurts. One way you think you can make it better is to change his mind. Which is why I think you’re asking this. You want him to stop hurting you by asking for this. But you know what works better? Not giving him the chance to ask.
By the time a guy is willing to upset you by telling you it’s over, he’s done. The fact that he’s doing it on the phone just testifies to the fact that he’s a wimp about it. He doesn’t have the guts to deal with doing it in person, and having to see the look on your face, that would just be too much hassle.
Why date a guy who is willing to tell you that he doesn’t want you in his life? Whenever you have a problem like this, think to the future. Do you really want to have to continually convince him that your relationship is good enough? For the rest of your life?
That’s not how it should work, and frankly, you deserve better. You deserve a guy that is willing to *beg* you to be his girlfriend, but that doesn’t have to because you like him so much. You deserve a guy that, in turn, does not make you beg, because that is just a waste of your time.
Chit Lite Par Tot – May Sweet